OLD SCHOOL MAN: “Check in on my Family”

We look out for our own in these parts

I remember when I was a kid my pops would ask one of his Old School Man friends to check in on us to make sure we were ok whenever he had to go out of town for a few days.

On the surface it seems like a simple request that isn’t really a big deal.

But think about it, my Old School Dad trusted another man with the welfare and safety of his family in his absence. And he had an Old School Man friend that would not only take on that responsibility, he would protect and look out for another mans family like his own.

The “Check in on my Family” tradition amongst Old School Men dates back to the westward expansion of the United States. When an Old School Cowboy or Rancher had to run 300 head of cattle to sale he left the women and youngest boys back on the ranch.

Between the wondering highwaymen and footpads, Indians, the unscrupulous banker who held the ranch note and regular old outlaws – leaving ones family alone was extraordinarily dangerous.

But the Old School Cowboy didn’t have a choice, he had to hit the trail for a few months every year so he could make enough money to feed his family and keep up on the ranch payments.

So when he left his family behind he would ask other ranchers and settlers in the area to “check in on my family”. For the Men living nearby this was just something he did for a neighbor because he knew when time came for him to hit the trail or go into town every Man in the area would do the same for him.

I was talking to a buddy of mine about this today and he said that he asked one of his ‘friends’ if he would feed his dog for a couple of days wile he was out of town. His friend said “sorry dude, I am way busy right now”.

Today’s femi-man is so worthless that he won’t even take 10 minutes out of his day to toss a handful of dog food into a bowl for a friend. So asking him to check in on your wife and kids is pretty much out.

I guess this is another Old School Man Value that is going out the window along with slapping a gal on the ass.

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~James G
Founder – Editor in Chief

James G is a Veteran Civilian Contractor who has worked in the Middle East and Southeast Asia for way too long. He spends his off time in Indonesia and Virginia getting drunk, shooting guns and writing poorly written articles.

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18 thoughts on “OLD SCHOOL MAN: “Check in on my Family””

  1. To find an Old School Man you can trust with your wallet, your wife and your kids, is a rare thing.

    Don’t trust anyone under 30; he’s too busy running around on a financed image trying to keep up with the other overly self-absorbed dinks.

    Find a seasoned guy you’ve walked through some hell with, (or at least several hunting trips) who knows not only when to say no, but also knows when to say yes.

    And when he says yes, you can take it to the bank.

    If he’s polite to women, carries a gun and has a dog, so much the better…

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  2. I only have one Old School Friend like that, we used to Shoot and Loot together back in the day. He is a stand up guy that would get on a plane at 3 AM with just a phone call – no questions asked (He has actually done that once – flew 18 hours overseas to meet me when I needed his help with something). I would trust him with the life of my family without hesitation

    But it’s a shame I only have one Old School Man friend like that, back in the western days, hell even just 40 years ago most Old School Men had 20 or 30 Man friends like that.

    The times have changed

    ~James G

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  3. The lack of comments suggests how rare it is for any of us these days to have a true, Old School Friend. My favorite was this Viet Nam Vet Cliff, who was also a Fire Chief, a boxer, etc., and a great family man. He just lived at a level where people were more important than things, and was there with me through the toughest times of life, when it really mattered.

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  4. Though such things do reflect personality, anyone can dress a certain way, drink a certain way or drive a certain car, but solid values like checking on on another guys family and knowing when to take it outside is what really seperates the old school men from the boys. I really like the turn you’ve taken with these articles.

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  5. I really like the turn you’ve taken with these articles.  (Quote)

    This week I was feeling nostalgic for Old School Man Values so I wrote a couple of more-serious articles.

    After that conversation with my buddy about his ‘friend’ that would not even do something simple like toss his dog some food along with watching “3:10 to Yuma” where Christen Bale asks his friend to “Check in on his family” I felt even more disgusted with today’s femma-man.

    But in this Mondays article I am bringing back the humor people liked in the original “Habits of the old School Man” series. Actually I spent like 3 days writing it, it is really good so check back on Monday.

    ~James G

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  6. Let me comment just one more time. I had a close friend named C, who moved up here to the uncivilized world from California.

    We did a lot of back-country stuff together, I spent time in his house, got close to his wife and kids, and generally became pretty close friends. He’s in his early 30’s, and I’m a *tad older than that.

    However, he always seemed to be too busy the couple times I asked for help with a project, but when he went on a trip for a few weeks, and I offered to check on his family from time to time, he was a little nervous about the offer.

    I had to conclude that he’s simply too young and still too yuppified from SoCal to understand an Old School Man offering to be an Old School Friend.

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    1. Clear, infrvmatioe, simple. Could I send you some e-hugs?

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  7. Allot of guys were just never exposed to Old School Man values so they don’t even know about things like “checking in on the family” – not so much about age, more about the kind of man your father and grandfather was.

    But just the fact that he didn’t ask confirms that he just didn’t know about Old School Man values.

    Generally one should ask someone to check in on their family, I don’t know about offering – could send the wrong vibes.

    ~James G

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  8. It could, indeed, send the wrong vibes.

    If the Old School ever had a failing it was that most of these things were unspoken.

    You didn’t look Greg in the eyes and go, “I’ll be there for you and your family if you need me.” No, you met him in a bar, you kicked his ass, or he kicked yours.

    One bought the other a beer, and you knew he’d be ready to kill a guy for you if you were out and something happened to your kids.

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  9. No, you met him in a bar, you kicked his ass, or he kicked yours.
    One bought the other a beer, and you knew he’d be ready to kill a guy for you if you were out and something happened to your kids.  

    That’s funny. An Old School Friend of mine came about several years back when this guy I was getting to know tried to choke me out in my own house. I instinctively busted him up, sent him to the hospital in an ambulance, and of course, we became Old School Friends ever since.

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  10. James,

    give me a call. I understand the loss. I no longer have that man. But for men that do understand the honor involved I give my total backing.

    I only have one Old School Friend like that, we used to Shoot and Loot together back in the day. He is a stand up guy that would get on a plane at 3 AM with just a phone call – no questions asked (He has actually done that once – flew 18 hours overseas to meet me when I needed his help with something). I would trust him with the life of my family without hesitationBut it’s a shame I only have one Old School Man friend like that, back in the western days, hell even just 40 years ago most Old School Men had 20 or 30 Man friends like that.The times have changed
    ~James G  

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  11. Thanks, good to see some guys still hold the Old School Man values in high esteem

    ~James G

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  12. “A friend will help you move, a real friend will help you move a body.”

    I have the rare privilege of having several real friends. The oldest is a Mic (I’m a square-head) I fought the first day I moved into the neighborhood when I was 11. He is an OSM NYC firefighter, just like his 3 brothers. A college roommate, several buddies I served with in the 82nd ABN, some fellow cops and some men from my church. THese are my go-to guys and the ones who call me for advice or a hand or to go steelhead fishing.

    I learned this from my best friend, my Pop, who passed last October at 84. He had real friends too, and exposed me to them and manliness from a young age. He grew up on a farm in a fishing village in Norway, joined the whaling fleet at 15 to support his family, came to the US in 1958 and became a citizen ASAP. Raised a family working as a union carpenter. At 84 he still drove, had figured out the internet and did his own house repairs. 8 grandkids and 11 great grandkids, a 60-year marriage. He had a good run.

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  13. “Pop” sounds like a good sort of OSM, our country needs more of these guys

    Whaler and Fireman, serous OSM jobs

    “square-head” – lol

    ~James G

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  14. The times have changed, I’d have to say I’m no old school man although elements of my decision and actions making might fall in line with that ideology. But its pathetic how girly some of my guy friends are. I’m 20 and I make it my goal to ensure I can take care of my self, my woman and be able to assist those who need it. And man oh man I can’t say half as much for a most of my friends, most of them could barely help them selves. They wont even carry a pocket knife it’s rather pathetic.

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  15. Well..Im 21 and if people ask for help, I give it to them, especially friends and family, even if i’ts at night and I got work in the morning, cause that’s what man do, what friends do..
    But yes..these days there are so many people you can’t even trust your dog for a couple of days..

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  16. My Old school friend is Jake. I call him “Mountain Folk” because he and his family live a very simple life on a farm. We have been friends since 4th grade. We are 35 now and we are each others only friend. 2 teenagers tried to mug him in front of his wife. He beat both their asses and then drove them to their parents house. and now , for the last 2 summers,the teenagers come to the farm to work and they. he won’t let them bring their cell phones :)

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